Updated: Sep 17, 2020
According to Plato, the unexamined life is not worth living. I tend to agree. In a culture of self-absorption, we need more self-examen or contemplation. This is difficult in the age of social medial and the Internet. In his book, The Shallows, Nicholas Carr states, What the Net seems to be doing is chipping away my capacity for concentration and contemplation.
This lack of concentration and contemplation makes us shallow people. A deep diver tends to reflect on who they are and increase in their awareness of the gaps in their actions. This is the HQ, the Hypocrite Quotient. The HQ measures the gap between what we say (beliefs, values) and what we actually do (behaviors, practices). The more we are aware of our gaps, the higher our capacity for personal growth.
The HQ is the gap between who we SAY we are and what we ACTUALLY do. My HQ can be a bit high at times. My husband and I jokingly call each other the H word (Hypocrite) when this happens. Here's one example. I proudly call myself a reader (see how intellectual I am in the pic), while making a snarky comment at his TV watching. Then a few days later, I binge TV. My HQ is high on that day.
What's your HQ? One way to assess your HQ is to spend some time contemplating on what you say you believe and what you actually do. Then you can choose to reconcile your words and actions to lower your HQ.
Author and pastor, AW Tozer, created seven Questions For Self-Discovery. This tool helps you identify what is really important in life at the moment. It also points out where your values and beliefs don't line up to with your actions. Here are the seven questions for contemplation:
What do I want the most?
What do I think about the most? What occupies my mind?
How do I spend my money?
What do I do with my leisure time?
What company do I enjoy? Who do I hang out with?
Who and what do I admire?
What am I laughing at? What brings me true joy?
Take some time to reflect on these questions and examen your life. Once you've answered these, you may consider committing to new habits and practices that affirm your beliefs and values. Join me in in lowering your HQ! Download Questions for Self-Discovery by visiting lizsastre.com; click FREE STUFF and create a login to access free resources.